After (finally) setting aside some time to reflect on 2018 and tuck it safely away as one of my most noteworthy years, it only seemed fitting to spend a minute ushering in this new one in a similar fashion — with a post dedicated entirely to it, of course!
So . . . what’s up, 2019? This is me welcoming you with wide-opened arms; inviting you into an eager embrace. Can you feel my optimism? That innocent hope that hasn’t yet been stroked? The sheer determination to make you my most favorite year ever?!
Well if for some reason you can’t, here’s your bleeping-red warning to buckle up. Because we’re doing this, 2019. We’re in it for the long haul.
Unless you’re someone who finds joy living exclusively in the past (no thanks), it’s pretty hard not to be excited about the notion of a fresh start. 365 new and untouched days to make sh*t happen?! Sign me up!
Like clockwork, along with the new year have arrived countless reflective and inspirational posts on goal-setting and becoming an all-around healthier individual — from our finances and how to achieve those monetary goals to our psyche and, well, our health.
More surprisingly, though, is the number I’ve read about people ditching resolutions altogether. At the heart of these posts (though still inspirational in their own right) is the notion of how many of us set our sights high — almost too high — with what we aim for, and in the process, we assign far too much importance to these yearly goals and our failure to achieve them. Instead of them inspiring us to work harder and be better, these resolutions loom over us in an ominous, always-watching manner, making the potential of defeat that much worse.
So, as much as I don’t completely relate, I do get it. I get that a new year invites an optimistic mindset of “I can do anything!” even if that way of thinking might be a little too optimistic. I get that people don’t necessarily want to set themselves up for the possibility of failure. My arguments against those, though, are these:
- If setting a resolution for some colossal lifestyle change — Lose 100 pounds! Write a book! Buy a house! Run a marathon! — intimidates instead of inspires you throughout the year, why not try to shift your focus to making smaller, more achievable goals instead? Add greens to every meal. Write every day, no matter what kind of writing it is. Put part of every paycheck into a savings account for a house. Run four times a week, even if it’s just for 10 minutes. Unfortunately, not everything can be achieved in a single year. But that shouldn’t stop you from setting a significant goal for yourself, especially if it’s important to you. And don’t forget that it’s really hard to go from doing nothing to aspiring to do everything. Being realistic in what you set out to do is a good place to start with your resolutions.
- What’s the difference between setting a specific resolution on January 1 and making that same personal goal for yourself on June 25? A year is a year, no matter how you slice it.
For me, personally, resolutions are something I will likely never stop setting. They keep me accountable and see to it that I am always making decisions with intent. Plus, without them existing in the first place, I wouldn’t be able to revisit them later on and shift my focus for the remainder of the year or celebrate the things I’ve already accomplished with a little happy dance.
I love the new year. I, like many, use it a launching pad . . . my sights often set on a medley of small attainable goals and major life goals that will definitely take longer than one year to achieve. I like to keep these larger hopes and dreams in mind throughout the year, though, to ensure that I am making moves here and there that will lead me to reach them.
2018 was my self-titled Year of Me. I set broad intentions as well as significant personal goals — many of which were recycled from years prior and most of which I can say I was finally able to cross off. Nothing felt sweeter.
After such a whirlwind of a year, I’m approaching this new one a little differently. I want to slow down and live in the present. I want to engage more with the here and now.
2019 will be my year of Goodness.
I want to be good to others. I want to volunteer more. I want to help those in need. I want to smile more at strangers. I want to practice paying it forward.
But I also want to be good to me. I want to be careful with how I talk to myself. I want to continue this streak of self-love I’ve been experiencing, but also know when to show a little tough love, too. I want to become stronger — with my body and my mind. I want to always be hopeful for my bigger dreams (being published on one or more of my favorite forums, writing a book) instead of unnerved by what it might take to realize them. I want to see more and do more. I want to stop putting things off.
All of this in the hopes that I become a better person because of it and that I contribute a little “goodness” to the world.
So here’s to 2019! I am hopeful for you and committed to you for the next 365 days (or, well, 354 because procrastination — I’ve still got it, y’all!).
What are some of your resolutions and intentions for the new year?